We are a full 10 days into the New Year, and I have spent the past week and a half deciding how I will live my year by my design versus a year by default.
I have never been one for resolutions, “New Year New Me” (New Year New Look New Paige!). The idea that we write a whole year off, as if those experiences, laughs memories, issues, problems, debts, etc just end on December 31st, is odd to me. It doesn’t really allow us to grow, to prosper, to thrive.
I started 2017 on a bridge in Bristol, UK with Adrian watching fireworks and Prosecco. We started the year with plans to move to New York City together. Adi would graduate, we would both get jobs and he would easily get a visa. Then reality smacked us in the face, hard. Getting a work visa before Trump was a nightmare, now it was a living hell. Adrian could not even get a tourist visa to come visit me in the US. We spent hours researching how to be together. The UK? Nope! I needed 10,000 dollars accessible in my bank account for a residency permit and not even be able to work in the UK. We finally settled on Warsaw. The process to get a visa has been….slower than molasses to say the least. But Warsaw was not our goal, and the city is mentally wearing us both down. I missed Tennessee where everyone smiled, and I missed the UK where they apologized when they bumped into you. So our goal has become to move back to the UK, fingers crossed by spring. America, eventually we will be back for you. Just maybe when Voldemort is not in the Oval Office. But ultimately 2017 made us live a life we weren’t fully in control of, which is a bullshit way of saying we were irresponsible, young, and didn’t plan far enough ahead and think out every choice we made.
I learned a lot in 2017 mainly this: credit card debt is a really real thing, student loans won’t ever go away even if I die, just because you lose 60 pounds doesn’t mean you won’t gain 30 pounds back, and being in love in a cross-cultural international relationship is really complicated, difficult, and exciting. And also this, nothing just happens, life happens because of our choices. I chose to spend money I didn’t have (if you were wondering how I was able to travel some much before there is your answer), we chose to move to Warsaw even though it wasn’t what we wanted. And then we complained about it.
Now 2017 wasn’t all bad. Please. I GOT ENGAGED! I moved abroad, again. I traveled to 5 new countries. And I started my first real adult job at an amazing online start-up company.
By the end of the year I was waking up at 5 am to work out, eating out only once a week, cooking healthy meals, and working non-stop. If using the mindset that a new year has begun and we need to write off a new year, then that means I write it all off and start again. Why would I want to write off those good habits within the new year, these habits I learned in response to my actions at the beginning of the year? I can’t write off my debts and we can’t write off a Presidency at the end of the year (the dream though, y’all). No these things have to come with me, and solving them will make me a better person and make us better people.
So taking my hardships and lessons learned here are my top 20 obtainable goals to accomplish by December 31, 2018.
- Pay off my credit card debt in its entirety
- Move to the UK
- Make sure Adrian and I both have jobs we love and can grow in
- Publish weekly on my blog
- Help grow the new start-up I work for
- Become B2 in Polish
- Lose the 30 pounds I gained back
- Add 5 countries to 30 before 30 (Romania, Greece, Scotland, Israel, Ukraine).
- Get my credit score back to 700 or higher
- Gain 5,000 followers on my travel Instagram account
- Begin Interviewing women in their work sectors for a second blog idea
- Vote in November
- Take on at least 4 or more Social Media Management clients
- Take on at least 4 or more website design clients
- Take on at least 4 or more Copy Write clients
- Take on at least 4 or more SEO clients
- Kick the sugar habit
- Kick the caffeine habit
- Get my hair healthy and long again
- Visit Zakopane, Lake Bled, and the Baltic Sea
- Get income from Blogging
So here it is, my goals written out. A reflection of myself at the end of the year to see what I did really accomplish, and what I am capable of if I put my mind to it.
I am excited to enter this year so clear-headed and so full love happiness.
What are some of your goals? Traveling? Weight loss? Eliminating debt?
Let me know, let’s hold ourselves accountable to be the best versions of ourselves!
PS: We leave for Romania on Friday, so be on the lookout for that post.
Have a great year!